GUEST BLOGGER: Sha'Ketta Davis (Four Reasons Men Don't Take You Seriously )

4 REASONS MEN DON'T TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY...

Yeah you're a beautiful, intelligent, educated, well-versed, goal-oriented, family-oriented fashionista. You have big dreams and you are achieving them, one step at a time. You're talented, love the Lord, have no kids, and a nice job. With such a great resume', you're probably wondering why you're still single.... If not, I know I am!! lol I know that everything happens in God's timing, however, certain things we do can "stall" or postpone things for us.

For all the single ladies out there, one thing that I have learned over the course of time as to why we may still be single is GUYS DON'T TAKE US SERIOUSLY!!! "Why?" you may ask. Well keep reading and you are BOUND to find a relatable category.

1. YOUR ATTIRE We all like to be trendy and dress in the finest or cutest outfits, but when the clothing you sport leaves nothing to the imagination, men tend to see you as "meat". They'll date you, take you out, and have sex with you, but ultimately no man takes a "loose-looking woman" home to mama. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wearing Gucci, Prada, Dolce, etc. but when your outfit monopolizes the conversation--- when you can't walk 20 steps because you don't want to mess up your Prada shoes or you can't leave your Louis Vuitton bag in the car because someone might steal it----- the man may think you put too much emphasis on what's on the outside--- leading him to view you as shallow. Let your appearance speak for itself. And a word of advice... If you wear a short dress, don't show cleavage. If you show cleavage, mask the butt. Too much visible flesh at one time can be overwhelming and give off the wrong impression.

2. YOU'RE A BOOTY CALL Regardless of what a man says, he WANTS a woman that tells him NO to sex, especially on the first date! The problem with women is that we give it up on the first date, or really early in the relationship. Then when he doesn't call or text anymore, we get pissed. Baby, the thrill is gone!! He got what he wanted!! He thinks if you gave it up to him this soon, who ELSE have you given it up to!!!??!! If he calls and texts ONLY at night, you're a booty call! If he texts and calls until you give it up, you WERE a booty call! lol Men know up front if you are the type of woman that will give it up easily or if you will make them wait. If they're interested in a relationship, they'll wait. If they want sum booty, they'll move on if you don't give it up. Sometimes as women we think that having sex with a man will make him stick around. We think that we can "win him over if we show him what we're working with." WRONG ANSWER! Your "no" will keep him coming back, and your "yes" will drive him away.

3. YOU'RE THIRSTY And when I say thirsty, I mean needy. Men prefer being friends first. They can do without all the titles in the beginning. When he's ready to commit, he'll tell you. Until then, you don't have to nag him about dating, your future together, blah blah blah. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying sit around and wait on him. I just saying it's ok to have other guy friends. We mess up when we devote ALL of our energy and efforts to a man right off the back just because we like him! All that attention and up front affection scares men! It's ok to have other friends to hang with and other things to do. You don't ALWAYS have to be available when he calls and texts. He doesn't have to know your every move! Do you and fit him into YOUR life! Don't let him be occupied and you have to find ur way into his schedule. Bottom line: Don't let a man consume your life. Have a life OUTSIDE of your relationship.

4. YOU'RE MOVING TOO FAST ....Moving too fast in terms of what God has pre-destined for you. When we know who we are and whose we are... When we are comfortable with ourselves and are not defined by the person we're with (i.e. I'm dating a doctor; that's my money ticket)... When we are operating in His Will and in His Ways, THEN God will send the mate of our dreams! My last piece of advice to you is to live your life WITHOUT a man so that you can appreciate living your life WITH a man! Why wait until you're dating or married to take that cruise? SAIL NOW! Why wait until you get a man before you take a trip to Paris? FLY NOW! You have to be able to appreciate your alone time and singlehood before getting into a relationship. When your mind is off men and you're working on yourself and your goals---when you least expect it, your Boaz will show up!!

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*DISCLAIMER: Sha'Ketta D. Davis does not proclaim to be a psychologist, counselor, or any other licensed advice-giving professional. The aforementioned views are merely her opinions, which appear to be reasonably accurate, though no scientific research has been conducted.*