Hate on me...HATER!!!!!!!!!!!

Now, I normally do not waste time talking about having "haters" or what it takes for someone to be a "hater" because I feel it is so irrelevant to what I'm trying to do, and what I currently have going on in my life. Personally, the word "hate" is so strong to me and I dislike using it. For the record, I am not talking about having haters "personally", but I want to share with you some reasons as to why you may have them and what characteristics they may display! I've come to recognize that we all have at least one hater in our lives whether you/they are young or old, so to help both you and I, we need to be aware of the "haters", and before one passes judgment, read this post in its entirety.....

Did you know that Jesus had haters? Yep, he surely did! His "HATERS" mocked him, nailed him to a cross, spit on him, and called him all kind of names but a child of God...yet and still, he continued on. So what makes us think that we won't/don't have them? Let's get REAL! A hater, as defined by the Urban Dictionary (2011) is, "A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person." The word hater is also an, "Overused word that people like to use just because someone else expresses a dislike for a certain individual." Now simply put, a "hater" is a person that is simply not happy for you and always tries to knock down what you have going on. You can be awesome at what you do, but a "hater" will always point out the bad in it all because they don't want to see you shine.

Treat those that misuse you, kindly. Fighting fire with fire doesn't put it out, it only makes it worse! Be the change that you want to see :-)

So why are you making this post about HATERS Shenina? Well, I'm glad you asked! Lately, I've noticed alot of people who aren't sincerely happy for the next person's success or accomplishments. Instead of giving them a congratulations, a way to go, or even a hug to tell them that they're proud, they will purposely talk about them behind their back or even to their faces, and will keep all of their accolades to themselves instead of dishing them out freely. Does any of this sound familiar??? Well, it could be because YOU either have haters in your life, or truthfully told...you may even be the HATER! Hating on me, you, or anyone else will get a person NO WHERE. The more you talk about people, the higher up they go! As our parents used to tell us, if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it at all....that statement is so true!

Some of us even abuse the word hater! We think that everyone is "hating" on us because of what we have, how we look, what we do...blah blah blah. Truthfully speaking, not everyone is out to get you or better yet, hate on you! It may just be a confidence issue with you, and because you lack confidence, you feel better "assuming" that people are hating on what you have. I sometimes wish that the word can be erased from our minds because it is SO over-rated.

So, you will be hated upon if you decide to live for Christ, if you do good in school, if you're genuinely active in church, if you are good at what you do, if you're a nice, friendly person whom everyone likes, if you got it going on, making money, smiling, have nice shoes, a nice smile, a great position on your job, etc....and the list goes on and on! If you have haters in your life, beware! Haters will only pull you down if you allow them to. If you recognize a hater, then pray and ask God to show you how to deal with your hater...all the while allowing him to direct your paths! You don't have time to continue allowing those who aren't FOR you to be in your space. And if YOU are a hater, ask God to remove that hatefulness out of your heart. There is room for all of us to grow and get to the next level, yet we still are like crabs in a bucket that try to over climb the next to reach the top!

God loves each of us the same, and if you are usually a sour person that never has anything good to say, then please re-evaluate the reason WHY you are in the lives of others. If you constantly bring a negative vibe, spirit, or even feeling amongst those that are trying to progress, then remove yourself & ask God to get you together. If you have haters, whether they are family, friends, co-workers, or even church members, allow God to deal with them. At the same time, continue doing what you do in a decent manner in a way that doesn't put the other person down. As I say so many times, in the end....YOU WILL WIN! So just say HI to your HATERS and keep it moving....