"fit"TING IN.....

Super cool ain't it??? Lol!

I've always been different. I do things, think about things, & say things that are quite different from the norm most of the time. But things haven't always been this way. Once upon a time, I REALLY, I mean REALLY tried to fit in with others. I would jeopardize who I was just to please & make them like me. But oh I THANK GOD for a divine intervention, a chance to mature, & GROW. Honestly, it was not until I reached my 20s that I realize it was okay NOT to fit in with everyone. As my relationship with God blossomed, I found peace with being who I was. When others cursed, that didn't mean I had to in order for them to like me. Yep, some may have called me a "goody-two-shoes, holy roller, good girl"....but for the most part, people RESPECTED me more for who I was and not for what I was trying to become!

Reppin' J.C! (Jesus Christ), lol!

Though the latest fads in fashion are cute, it doesn't mean that I or everyone else has to succomb to them. Now, don't get me wrong, wanting to wear the POParazzi earrings (rocked by the ladies of Basketball Wives), Earlaces, Feather earrings, and more (which are all IN right now) is fine because they are really cute, BUUUUUT that doesn't mean you HAVE to in order to be deemed a fashionista/o! I'm not knocking anyone's hustle...but what happens when these things become old? Are we going to throw our hard earned money down the drain to keep up with the Jones', Browns', & Smiths'??? Or are we going to just do us & continue wearing that bright pink, yellow, & orange $100.00 dress we purchased for the summer in the fall as well with some fye boots & a blazer??? Lol! Or will we just let it rot in our closets because it isn't this "season's" current fashions? Think about it, because I will rock it all no matter the season....hahaha! You don't have to wear Jessica Simpson, Gucci, BCGC, or similar brands just to look good & to get compliments. Yes, they are all fierce, but you can look just as fierce rocking Faded Glory (Walmart), going to a flea market/thrift store, or yes, even your local Dollar General or Family Dollar to find beautiful pieces! I don't want to have to go broke to fit in & look good, only to spend $200.00 for a pair of shoes that I'll probably only wear twice because I don't want to be seen in "last year's" fashions....lol, smh! If you have the funds to rock it without going broke, then by all means, do what your heart desires.....just don't do it to fit in with everyone else though :-)...."THINGS" don't make you...remember that!

Most of what I wear & have honestly comes off of the clearance racks at stores, lol. No joke! People say..."Ooo, that is so cute, those are fierce, etc.", but they just don't know that the dress only cost $10.00 and the shoes were only $5.00....and because I have $5.00 left out of a $20.00, I purchased some $1.99 earrings to go along with my ensemble & then chose to WURK it.....lol!!!! And I'm not ashamed to say it! That doesn't mean I don't have the money to get nicer, more expensive things, I just sometimes choose not to and in turn look BETTER than the person who spent their entire check to please others :-)

Just loving on some ME!

Fitting in is quite natural though, so I don't knock those that have yet to find out who they truly are because it is a process. Fitting in isn't also just about material things, but its about the spiritual, mental, emotional, & physical man as well. Just because the newest saying may be out, for example: bruh, bruh or going HAM (lol) that doesn't mean you have to say it to look "cool". Or better yet, praising a "god" you know nothing about just to please the next person. Find out who our GOD is for yourself & develop a relationship with him. These are only a FEW things that we do to fit in....but its okay, things will get better with a made up mind & heart! Make up your own saying, stitch your own clothes,...just do something that no one else requires you to do because it eventually becomes old. And its not just with our youth, its with GROWN UPS as well! I've fallen victim to wanting to be like everyone else as well, but the more I grow spiritually & realize that God loves me & made me to be who I am, I can appreciate my differences more all the while trying to encourage others to do the same. Nope, I am not a size 8, nor do I have the longest hair, lightest/darkest skin, biggest booty, fye"est" (lol) clothes, car, house, stacks of money, straightest/whitest teeth, smallest breast, biggest hips, thickest legs, etc, but I'm ME....take it or leave it!

One of my favorite pictures, lol! Look at that hair!

So just be & do YOU! Know that God loves you just the same and if people can't love & like you for who you are, or as I like to say, can't get "jiggy" with ya', then they aren't worthy enough to be in your space in the first place! Give yourself permission to be different, its okay! I have, & it feels good to "fit" in where I belong....and that's with ME :-)

IT IS WELL! How YOU dowin'????? Lol.

BEING ME!

Thanks for reading & please share this post with someone who may be struggling with finding who they are :-)

PEACE OUUUUUUUUUT!