Please get ta' STEPPIN'.......DEUCES!

If I can be honest & open with you, I have yet to *completely* let a guy that I used to be in a relationship with go. I know that I haven't thoroughly healed from the hurt because anytime I physically see anything that he does, says, or how he interacts with others, I get a bit emotional. Sometimes when that happens, I look up at Jesus and I'm like "REALLY GOD????? I'M SUPPOSED TO BE 'SO' OVER HIM RIGHT NOW!!!". Though my emotions are faaaaar from where they used to be concerning him, there is still a tinsy winsy part of me that still genuinely loves him. When you love, and I mean really LOVE someone, you will never completely get over them (at least that's my opinion for now anyways). He just doesn't know how much I loved him. Well, no let me take that back, I'm sure he did know, but he just wasn't the man for ME! When someone knows your worth, whether it be friendships, family, relationships, etc., then they will do whatever is in their power to make it work and stick it out with you. Without going into a long, drawn out story, I'll just leave you with these few words.....

DEUCES!!!! PEACE ALL THE WAY OUT! Lol...

When someone wants to leave, LET THEM GO!!!!! At first in this relationship, I found myself making so many excuses for him & trying to prove to him WHY he should be with me, continuously showing him over and over how much I cared. I even tried my best to "convince" him that I was the best thing that ever happened and that he'd never find another like me.....lol! I can laugh about it now because then, baby I was SO serious! Lol! But I'm so glad that God removed him from my life because now I see that he wasn't FOR me. It only still hurts just a little because I'm still disappointed in alot of things he did to me, but that's another story by itself, lol.

We cannot MAKE folks stay with us. When they say they want to go, let them! When they say they'll never talk to you again a day in their life, let it be! When they say they don't want to be with you, believe them!!!!! I used to try to "make" things work with him & say things like, "Well, he's just saying that now because he's mad"...or "He'll come around, and when he does I'll be right here waiting for him"....or, "WHEN he recognizes what he has, then he'll apologize & everything will be better"....or, "I know he's the one for me, so I'll just stick it out until he comes to his senses".....bwahahahaah! LOL! OMGsh, that is just so funny to me now because I've truly grown & matured a whoooooole lot!

So in short, ACCEPT whatever God allows! Them leaving you was not an accident! You deserve so much better than to have someone who really isn't down with you continue wasting space in your life. We MUST release these folks who don't want to be with us or apart of our lives and what we have going on. Its actually not that hard, you just have to know your WORTH! When you know that, then things will come much easier. At the time, I didn't know just how valuable I was and that there was some Man of God praying for the day God will send him searching for someone like "me". I'm slowly releasing him because its' not fair to the man God is preparing me for. I truly believe that's one reason why many single women who seek God & desire to be married have not been blessed with the opportunity yet because we are still trying to hold on to past relationships that weren't ordained by God (that's another story as well, lol!!!)! Only until we release the toxins will we be able to have a fresh start. So baby, it was fun while it lasted, but as you grow higher in God, the higher he will take you! If they don't want to be apart of your life or see the value in you, then let them GO!!!!!!!!! Boo, I can't make you love me, I can't make you stay with me, I can't make you do anything......so please, get ta' steppin'!!!!!!!

I stumbled upon this video the other night as I was talking to God & thinking about some situations I encountered with "friends". I had one friend that totally gave up on our friendship over a mere misunderstanding, and in turn she tried to belittle me publicly, lol! But oohhhh baby-baby, I'm so glad that Jesus is a fence because I could have let her HAVE IT!!! Do you hear me??? Lol! But I didn't because first of all, its not in my character & second of all, I know that it wasn't "her" so to say, but its the spirit within her. So when she wanted to leave me, I had no other choice but to LET HER GO!......DEUCES! *almost had a Chris Brown moment*....LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL!

I love how God works through Bishop T.D. Jakes. Feel free to share how you feel about the message in the video! :-) Thanks for reading.....