LOL! I had to laugh at the title myself! Well, it doesn't REALLY equal to you having a disease if the shoe fits, but some people surely do look at you as if you do JUST because of those factors, smh. I just viewed one of Beautiful Brown Baby Doll's videos on Youtube where she pretty much summed up how many single ladies & gentlemen are sometimes viewed. I feel her on just about everything she said. I've had the following statements made to me and been asked the following questions on many ocassions in my life:
OH OKAY, ITS BEEN A MINUTE SINCE I'VE SEEN YOU......HOW MANY CHILDREN DO YOU HAVE? (Not, "do you HAVE children"....but, "HOW MANY"---as if you just KNOW I have some, lol!)
I JUST KNOW YOU'RE MARRIED BY NOW....
(Yep, I know I'm a GREAT catch, but God isn't going to place me in the arms of just no anybody!)
YOU MUST NOT WANT ANY KIDS???
(Yes I do! I desire to be a wife & a mother one day. But I want to do it the RIGHT way....so I'll wait.)
I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE WHO YOUR HUSBAND IS GOING TO BE!
(Lol! I was told this by one of my oldest cousins because he believes I'm just "too much" to handlw. Its not that....I just have STANDARDS. My husband will be all I need him to be & more, therefore he will know how to handle me because he will be designed specifically for ME and me ONLY! Take that, take that, lol! :-) )
That is just some of the things I've heard, lol! Because I know God has someone verrrrry special for me, he's worth waiting on. In the mean time, I'm enjoying life without kids (no disrespect to those who have them) and without being exclusive in a relationship. I'm entering my 2nd year in my Doctoral program and still finding out what my life's purpose is among so many other things. Do I wish to be in a healthy relationship one day? Of course I do, but I don't want anything prematurely. No, its not just that easy for me to wait, but the more I concern myself with doing things to edify, glorify, and build up the Kingdom of God, the less I see my "singleness" as a disease or a curse. Its actually a BLESSING! Some call it arrogance, I call it "GOD"fidence because I know who I am & what I want! No, I'm by far not at all perfect and I've made bad decisions which have resulted in consequences, BUT I appreciate all the broken relationships, single moments, etc. because they are making me stronger! I'm using this time to prepare myself to be FOUND by the man that God ordains me to be with.
Check out her video below & subscribe to her channel on Youtube! She is the truth & I appreciate her honesty, transparency, & realness!
You know what Nina, Imma start calling you twin cause I kid you NOT I was just about to post about this today! (lol it's funny how that always happens) but yes I've been dealing with the same thing! I actually had "friends" actually start distancing themselves as though my singleness is contiguous or they cant be seen with "the single girl". But its all good. We go through this b/c when the right one comes we will no it was no one but God!
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